Vocabulary
Platonic meaning: a close relationship without romance
Two people can spend a great deal of time together, support each other, and still be friends. Platonic helps you name that kind of close connection when the absence of romance matters to the conversation.
Use platonic to describe a close relationship or feeling that is not romantic or sexual, and choose the word with care when speaking about other people.
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platonic /pləˈtɒn.ɪk/
The short answer
Platonic means based on friendship or affection rather than romance or sexual attraction.
Their relationship remained platonic after they met at university.
Why it works: The sentence says that they were close, but it does not describe their connection as romantic.
5 more examples
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Sam and Priya have a platonic friendship built on years of trust.
Their friendship is close and trusting, with no suggestion of romance.
Not this:Sam and Priya have
a professional friendshipbuilt on years of trust. What changes: Professional describes the setting of the friendship. Platonic describes its non-romantic nature. -
The film shows platonic love between two friends who support each other through grief.
The love is deep care between friends, without romance or sexual attraction.
Not this:The film shows
romantic lovebetween two friends who support each other through grief. What changes: Romantic love includes romance. Platonic love names close affection outside a romantic relationship. -
They agreed that their connection was platonic and talked openly about their boundaries.
The speakers define their own connection as non-romantic and discuss what feels comfortable for them.
Not this:They agreed that
their connection was casualand talked openly about their boundaries. What changes: Casual can describe how serious or regular a connection is. It does not tell us whether the connection is romantic. -
Jordan described the bond with their former teammate as platonic.
Jordan uses platonic to state that the close bond is not romantic.
Not this:Jordan described
the bond with their former teammate as lasting. What changes: Lasting tells us that the bond continued over time. It does not describe whether romance is involved. -
The writer chose a platonic relationship for the main characters instead of a romance.
The characters have a meaningful relationship, but the story does not present it as romantic.
Not this:The writer chose
a family relationshipfor the main characters instead of a romance. What changes: Family identifies a kind of relationship. Platonic identifies a close relationship outside romance and sexual attraction.
Read the full guide
Use platonic when you are describing the nature of a connection and the contrast with romance is useful. Friendship is usually enough when no contrast is needed.
Name the kind of connection
Platonic describes a connection between people that is close but not romantic or sexual. It often appears when a speaker wants to prevent a friendship from being misunderstood as a romance.
Their affection for each other was platonic.
This sentence says that the affection is real, while also making its non-romantic nature clear.
Use it with relationship and friendship
The most common patterns are platonic relationship and platonic friendship. Platonic love and platonic affection are also possible when the focus is on warm feelings between friends.
They developed a platonic relationship while working on the same project.
A friendship may be platonic, but the word friendship does not always need the extra label. Add platonic when the contrast with romance helps the listener.
Compare platonic and romantic
Platonic and romantic can describe two different kinds of close connection. Romantic refers to romance. Platonic refers to friendship or affection without romance or sexual attraction. Neither word tells us how deep, respectful, or lasting the relationship is.
The novel gives its two main characters a platonic bond rather than a romantic one.
Use the label with care
Relationship words can be personal. It is usually fine to describe your own friendship as platonic. For other people, use the label when they have used it themselves or when the context clearly calls for it. Do not guess from appearances, time spent together, or gender.
Alex said that the relationship was platonic, so the interviewer used the same word.
Choose the word in context
You are writing about two friends whose closeness has been mistaken for romance. Is platonic useful?
Yes. Platonic can make the intended contrast clear: they have a close friendship without romance.
You simply want to say that your neighbor is a good friend. Do you need platonic?
Usually no. Friend is clear unless the difference between friendship and romance matters in the situation.
Before you go
Remember this
Use platonic for a close relationship, friendship, love, or affection that is not romantic or sexual. Use friendship when that simple word says enough. Let people describe their own relationships when the label is personal.
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What does platonic mean?
Platonic means based on friendship or affection rather than romance or sexual attraction. It often describes a close relationship, friendship, love, or bond.
Sam and Priya have a platonic friendship built on years of trust.
Is a platonic relationship the same as a friendship?
A platonic relationship is a non-romantic relationship, often a close friendship. Use friendship on its own when the contrast with romance does not need to be stated.
Sam and Priya have a professional friendship built on years of trust.
Can you say platonic love?
Yes. Platonic love describes deep affection or care between friends without romance or sexual attraction. The phrase can suit a thoughtful or personal context.
The film shows platonic love between two friends who support each other through grief.
What is the difference between platonic and romantic?
Romantic describes romance between people. Platonic describes closeness, affection, or friendship without romance or sexual attraction. Neither word measures the value of a relationship.
The film shows romantic love between two friends who support each other through grief.
Should I call another person's relationship platonic?
Use the word with care. It is safer when the people involved have described their relationship that way or when they have made the non-romantic context clear.
They agreed that their connection was platonic and talked openly about their boundaries.
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