Vocabulary
Obsequious: meaning, tone, and examples in English
A visitor thanks a hotel employee who answers a question clearly and courteously. That employee is helpful or polite. If the employee keeps praising the visitor, agrees with every comment, and seems desperate for approval, obsequious may fit instead.
Use obsequious for behavior that is too eager to please and choose respectful alternatives when you mean ordinary courtesy or helpful attention.
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obsequious /əbˈsiː.kwi.əs/
The short answer
Obsequious means too eager to please or obey someone important, usually in a way that seems insincere or excessive.
The assistant's obsequious praise made the manager uncomfortable.
Why it works: The praise goes beyond normal politeness and seems designed to win favor.
4 more examples
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He gave an obsequious laugh whenever the director made a joke.
The laugh suggests that he wants the director's favor rather than simply finding the joke funny.
Not this:He
listened attentivelywhile the director explained the plan. What changes: Attentively means with careful attention. It does not say that he is trying too hard to please anyone. -
The review described the clerk as obsequious toward wealthy customers.
Toward shows the people whose approval the clerk appears to be seeking.
Not this:The clerk was
respectful toward every customer. What changes: Respectful is usually approving. Obsequious carries criticism of excessive eagerness to please. -
Her obsequious agreement prevented a useful discussion of the problem.
She agrees too readily, possibly to avoid disagreeing with someone influential.
Not this:Her
considerate replyacknowledged the client's concern. What changes: Considerate means showing thought for another person. It does not suggest flattery or submission. -
The interviewer asked whether the candidate could disagree without sounding obsequious.
The question contrasts independent judgment with a manner that seeks approval too eagerly.
Not this:The candidate
answered helpfullyand gave a clear reason for her view. What changes: Helpful describes useful assistance. It does not judge the candidate's independence or motive.
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Use obsequious only when the excess is clear. A courteous colleague can be respectful without being obsequious. The word tells your reader that the speaker sees the behavior as overdone, often because the person wants approval from someone more powerful.
Start with the negative tone
Obsequious is more than respectful or friendly. It describes behavior that seems too eager to please a person with authority, money, status, or influence. The speaker usually disapproves of that behavior or doubts its sincerity.
The intern's obsequious compliments made the rest of the team uneasy.
Compliments can be warm and sincere. Obsequious says that the compliments seem excessive and are meant to gain favor.
Describe people and their behavior
You can call a person obsequious, but you can also describe the behavior itself. Obsequious praise, an obsequious smile, and an obsequious reply all suggest a person who is trying too hard to please. This pattern can make the criticism more precise.
Her obsequious smile appeared each time the chair entered the room.
A friendly smile shows welcome. An obsequious smile suggests an exaggerated wish to impress the chair.
Name who the behavior is aimed at
Use toward or to when you want to name the person receiving the excessive attention: obsequious toward the owner or obsequious to the client. The word often appears with verbs such as seem, sound, become, and behave.
The receptionist seemed obsequious toward the visiting executive.
The receptionist may be professional and welcoming. Obsequious adds the idea that the attention goes beyond ordinary professional courtesy.
Choose respectful alternatives
Choose polite for good manners, respectful for behavior that shows regard, attentive for careful listening or service, helpful for useful assistance, and considerate for behavior that takes another person's needs into account. These words do not accuse someone of flattery or submission.
The guide was attentive and respectful when visitors asked questions.
Attentive and respectful are suitable because the guide is doing the job well. Obsequious would add criticism that the guide is seeking approval too eagerly.
Avoid guessing at a person's motive
Obsequious makes a claim about how behavior comes across. If you only know that someone was courteous, do not use it. In formal writing, you can name the observable action first, then use obsequious only if repeated flattery, automatic agreement, or unusual submission supports that description.
A new employee thanks a supervisor once and follows the office rules. Is obsequious the right word?
No. That information shows ordinary courtesy and cooperation. Use obsequious only when the effort to please is clearly excessive or insincere.
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Remember this
Use obsequious for a person, smile, reply, or praise that is too eager to please someone with influence. The usual tone is negative because the behavior seems excessive or insincere. Choose polite, respectful, attentive, helpful, or considerate when the behavior is normal and appropriate.
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What does obsequious mean?
Obsequious means too eager to please or obey someone, especially a person with power or influence. It usually suggests that the behavior is excessive, flattering, or not fully sincere.
The assistant's obsequious praise made the manager uncomfortable.
Is obsequious a positive word?
Usually no. Obsequious normally has a critical tone because it suggests excessive submission or flattery. Use polite, respectful, attentive, or helpful when you mean appropriate and sincere behavior.
The assistant gave the manager a polite welcome.
What is the difference between obsequious and respectful?
Respectful describes appropriate regard for another person and is usually positive. Obsequious describes an effort to please that seems overdone or insincere, often because the person wants approval.
He gave an obsequious laugh whenever the director made a joke.
Can obsequious describe a smile, reply, or praise?
Yes. Obsequious can describe a person or a behavior such as a smile, reply, manner, praise, or agreement. In each case, it suggests that the behavior is too eager to gain favor.
He listened attentively while the director explained the plan.
How do you pronounce obsequious?
Obsequious is pronounced /əbˈsiː.kwi.əs/. Say ub-SEE-kwee-us, with the strongest stress on SEE.
The review described the clerk as obsequious toward wealthy customers.
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